22 Years old and still a Virgin

So I am 22 years old and I am still a virgin.
Yes you heard me, I’m 22 years old and still a virgin. While some might say it’s an achievement, I take it as a way of life.

Some ask me, ” but how did you do it?” You see I grow up having a lot of people around me, while children in suburbans watched documentaries to influence their lives, good or bad, my influence was my township or “Hood” for the hip hop lovers or wanna be american lingo type people.
I grew up in an area where drug lords and gangsters (of course accompanied by sex workers which society might say are hoes and bitches) lived a life of fast cars and money. Money that I thought will help my family from the financial problems we were experiencing, Until by God’s grace my parents were able to provide (my sisters and brothers and I) a better life but before that, seeing young girls fall pregnant at a young age was a norm to my eyes. Seeing my friends get pregnant and have their boyfriends abandon them because of that became a norm to my eyes, so I decided to set goals for myself that my friends were not able to and let that be my focus on that, rather than sex.


I took baby steps, I told myself “after matric, I will break my virginity” so I passed my matric and than I said “When I get to varsity” and I got to varsity and than I told myself, “when I get a job” and now I have it. I always set goals in my life that enable me to focus on things that will make me a better person and bring me a step closer to a better life. Of course I lost relationships and got played that broken record of “if you don’t sleep with me than you don’t love me” and yes it hurt when I heard those words coming out from that person who I thought they loved me as much as I loved them, but from strength I drew from my friends experiences I was able to show them the door and tell my ” so called” boyfriends back than, ” I guess I don’t love you that much and its over”. It never was easy but as I know look back it was all worth it. I am still waiting for that person not to break it to but to give it as a gift to him. The night were I will share to him, my inner and deeper self both physically and emotionally. Enjoying together that process were two hearts becoming one and embarking a journey of pleasure. Every touch will be a reminder of how much I love him and most importantly how much I respect him. Every touch I will enjoy and I will be in a space where I will allow him to enjoy me all he wants because it will be my gift to him to have. He will be my Adam and I will be his Eve as the way our beloved God intended it to be. Genesis!!!


Together we will write our own love story but all this will be done after we both stand forward in front of God with a priest in front us, exchanging vows that shall never be broken until the Lord, Our Father God decides our journey together as one must end but the story of our love shall continues in heaven.
Will I ever find him? Society will always tell you, “you will never find the right one” but I am here to tell society that “Sindiswa Nene will find the right one”
I am 22 years old and I am still a virgin. No it’s not an achievement, it is a way of life, my life.